Self Love tattoo

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My mother used to tell me that I should be my own best friend. When I was younger, I did not fully understand what she meant. But, the words stayed with me.

I have learned over the years that loving one’s self is hard because we have spent a lifetime listening to negative messages that have made us feel that we don’t deserve love. We constantly have tapes in our minds that speak to our unworthiness, and the sad thing is that we listen to them and start believing.

These negative messages keep us from acting in our own best interest. We allow others to take advantage of us and control our lives. We cease to be our own best friend.

In order to unhook from the cycle we must take deliberate steps to affirm who we are and take positive steps to loving our selves. It is up to us to be the person we want to be.

The power is within. Begin to tap into it with these steps:

  1. Make a firm decision to put yourself first. Make yourself a part of your equation. Put yourself into your life.
  2. Start to turn off critical or negative voices inside your head. You don’t have to buy into negative messages.
  3. Plan to spend one-hour with yourself every day to focus on you – go for a walk, take a bath or put on soothing music and relax. This will help you clean out the cobwebs in your mind.
  4. Write down all of the positive things that happened to you today. Count your blessings, don’t block them. Just waking up every morning is a blessing!
  5. Get negative people out of the front row seat of your life. Surround yourself with positive people.
  6. Buy a bunch of fresh flowers every week. They speak to you silently and powerfully about how special you are.
  7. Look in the mirror, into your eyes, and say out loud, “I love me some me!”